pharaohmangos:

bpdstri:

personal-insane-asylum:

teaforyourginaa:

xlovelyxhavocx:

juliawiinchester:

juliawiinchester:

juliawiinchester:

I hate men

Can we bring this back? He’s the reason I started carrying knives everywhere… One time he saw me inside of a liquor store and I refused to step outside until he finally left.. AN HOUR LATER. He just stood there waiting for me to leave the store. Ugh. I’m glad I’m across the country from this creep.

Oh he also stopped by my work EVERYDAY to ask me out and EVERYDAY I would say “no thank you” it got to the point that whenever I saw his car pull up I would tell my boss and then go hide in the back room. He honestly terrified me.

Men are fucking terrifying, I once had some random dude stalk me at work because I smiled at him. … something you get in trouble for if you don’t do when in customer service!

what the actual fuck

Everytime a guy tries to describe himself to me as a nice guy and that i shouldn’t be afraid, my warning siren in my head gets louder.

protip, people who are actually nice, don’t usually feel the need to tell everyone how nice they are.

Men feel so entitled sometimes. It’s scary to watch the interactions sometimes.

Flashback to that one time a guy texted me that trick way to say “I love you” and I caught on to the shit before I could text that to him. When I got mad about it he called me crazy and said I was overreacting when I asked for an apology. He never actually gave me an honest apology. He continued to bad mouth me to everyone I know calling me a crazy bitch for telling him I didn’t want to be friends anymore.

Trying to trick me into texting you “I love you” is not a friendly joke, nor is it something you should EVER do to someone who has explicitly said that they only consider you a friend.

colorsoftheswim:

pastelmorgue:

ubuntuliberation:

“The average prison sentence for men who kill their intimate partners is 2 to 6 years. Women who kill their partners are sentenced, on average, 15 to 17 years. A pair of Maryland cases vividly illustrates this inequality in sentencing. In one case, a judge in Baltimore County, Maryland sentenced Kenneth Peacock to 18 months for killing his unfaithful wife. The very next day, another judge in the same county sentenced Patricia Ann Hawkins to three years in prison for killing her abusive husband. Significantly, the prosecutor in the Peacock case requested a sentence twice as long as the one imposed, while the prosecutor in the Hawkins case requested one-third of the sentence imposed.”

“As many as 90% of the women in prison today [2008] for killing men had been battered by those men.”

~ The Michigan Women’s Justice & Clemency Project

try and tell me sexism isn’t real

Hold the fucking phone

boxofsoap:

haught-cookie:

thescaredfluid:

virginieawoolf:

gotlostintheuniverse:

coffeebuddha:

wreathedinscales:

celean0:

cheekless0nion:

cocksmasher69:

spearmint-milkshake:

i just saw a fb post where a man was arguing with a woman about the best way to make macarons and he kept insisting that she was wrong, and then eventually he was like “I’ve never personally made macarons, but if you think about it what I’m saying makes sense, i’m simply stating the obvious. i’m sure there are plenty of youtube tutorials that would show you the same thing.” and the woman replied by linking him to her instagram business page and she makes fuckin macaron towers for parties for a living and i’ve been laughing about it for a solid 5 minutes.

Men automatically assume they’re more of an expert on something than any woman on account of their dicks. I’ve never met such an ignorant and narcissistic creature as a male

I’ll never forget a time when a fb friend of mine posted that she’s on her way to hospital to give birth. Women commented with “good luck” and other encouraging messages. A man’s comment was advice on how to give birth.

You have got to be kidding me

So I was talking about Jekyll & Hyde (the book) at a writer’s museum while we were looking at an Robert Louis Stevenson exhibit. I was giving my take on Jekyll, and my brother tried to counter it. I countered back easily, and then he said “well I’ve never read the book”

My dude………..stop

my ex, whose baking experience was pretty much limited to frying premade biscuit dough in boy scouts to make ‘donuts’, would constantly try to correct me or give me advice on baking

i’m a fucking pastry chef

met a dude at a party who was talking about physics and asked if i’d ever listened to any online physics lectures bc he listened to all of this one series and they were so helpful and maybe i could learn some physics too

i have a degree in physics

and am a published coauthor in astrophysics

the best part is that the woman who invented the term ‘mansplaining’ (her name is Rebecca Solnit and i highly recommend her collection of essays) came up with it when she was at a party one night and a man tried to explain a book to her, and wouldn’t let her speak long enough for her to tell him that

she wrote the bloody book he was mansplaining to her

The last addition 😂😂

Now this is just amazing

It got better

How women haven’t already burned the world to the ground is beyond me.

nkjemisin:

aleshakills:

cumbler-tumbler:

dariasroom:

micdotcom:

Kamilah Brock spent 8 days in a NY mental health facility because she owned a BMW

Kamilah Brock, a former New York banker, has filled a suit against the city after she was detained for eight days in a mental health facility against her will. Brock says she was committed after trying to pick up her BMW, which skeptical police did not believe she owned. To add insult to injury, Brock was then charged a hefty sum by the hospital.

WHAT THE FUCK

WTF!!!!!!

While this is a slightly older case (September 2015, the court ruled in her favor) I do want to use this as a chance to say something. And while this may be incredibly obvious to some, it may not be to everyone.

The odds are exceedingly slim that the officer in question genuinely believed that she was mentally ill. And even if she had, claiming to have a nicer car or better job than she really did would not make her a danger to herself. Nothing Brock said would justify having a person detained for even 72 hours, let alone 8 days.

These were eight days when she was forcefully medicated, held against her will, and likely denied any contact with the outside world. Aside from the unfair medical bills, that 8 days could have cost her her job, her car, relationships, and led to a lifetime of trauma.

This was a deliberate effort to destroy a black woman’s life. Because she looked too happy, too carefree and too successful, a group of police officers made the decision to ruin her in any way they could. And this is common.

Even setting aside their racist and misogynistic biases, police who arrest and harass black people over frivolous infractions are not doing so in good faith. By which I mean, it is not a case of their bias misinforming their decisions (such as when someone “fits the description” of being black). It is not a case of upholding the letter of the law more strictly with regards to black people (such as arrests for weed possession). While those are both serious issues in their own right, that’s not what’s happening in cases like these.

This is a case where the police made a conscious decision to do harm first and came up with the justification after the fact. And all too often, it works. As tragic as this story is, Brock is one of the lucky ones.

I heard about this case when it happened, and yeah – there’s just. so much. misogynoir here. And for context, they also claimed she was delusional because she said Obama followed her on Twitter. He did.

This was about putting her in her place, and about a bunch of racists taking out their frustration re a black president on a random black citizen who was just living her best life.

hillnerd:

pizzafallon:

foulmouthedliberty:

soelo:

ilikesallydonovan:

ms-demeanor:

epoxyconfetti:

codex-fawkes:

unified-multiversal-theory:

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hyggehaven:

profeminist:

Source

I want men to try and imagine going about your day–working, running, hiking, whatever–and not being allowed to wear pants under threats of violence or total social and economic exclusion.

That’s the kind of irrationally violent and controlling behaviour women have been up against.

Also for anyone who thinks it’s easy for women to be gender non conforming because we can wear pants.

The only reason we can is because we fought tooth and nail for the right to! Any rights we take for granted today we’re the result of a prolonged, bitter battle fought by our predecessors for every inch of territory gained. Never forget that.

Title IX (1972) declared that girls could not be required to wear skirts to school.

Women who were United States senators were not allowed to wear trousers on the Senate floor until 1993, after senators Barbara Mikulski and Carol Moseley Braun wore them in protest, which encouraged female staff members to do likewise.

This was never given to us. Women have had to fight just to be able to wear pants. Women who are still alive remember having to wear skirts to school, even in the dead of winter, when it was so cold that just having a layer of tights between them and the elements was downright dangerous. Women who remember not even being allowed to wear pants under their skirts, for no other reason than they were female.

So don’t talk about women wearing pants being gender nonconforming like it’s easy. It’s only less difficult now because your foremothers refused to comply.

My mother spent her entire school career up until high school having to wear skirts, no matter how horrible the New England winters got, because she was forbidden to do otherwise. There were times when the weather was bad where my grandmother kept her home rather than make her walk to and from the bus in a skirt.

They rebroadcast a few old interviews with Mary Tyler Moore, and in them she addressed the pants issue. There was a strict limit on what kind of pants she could wear (hence, always Capri pants, nothing masculine), and to use her words, how much cupping the pants could show. A censor would look at every outfit when she came out on stage, and if the pants cupped her buttocks too much, defining them rather than hiding them, then she had to get another pair.

My mom got sent home from school when she was 8 years old for wearing a pair of shorts under her skirt. She wore them because she didn’t want to show her underwear when she was playing on the jungle gym.

The principle explained to my grandmother that if she was old enough to worry about showing her panties then she was too old to be playing on the jungle gym and had to start acting more like a lady.

My GNC aunt had to be forced to wear skirts right up until the second she was old enough to join the navy and then spent the rest of her life wearing the baggiest pants she could find. The reason she thought the military was her only viable option was because she had terrible grades through high school because she kept getting sent home for wearing shorts under her skirts.

My mum both fought to wear trousers and to wear the miniskirt. Ironically, of the two, trousers were the bigger fight.

Many of the women in this generation now sneer at feminism. I don’t understand how you can see such a huge positive change in your own lifetime and think social justice is a joke.

People always undervalue what they never had to fight for themselves. And even the right to wear pants is not over by any means.

From June 30, 2017:

Women who work at Mormon headquarters in Salt Lake City will be allowed to wear pantsuits and dress slacks instead of only skirts or dresses, the church announced this week, in a move that one Mormon women’s group called a step in the right direction.

The church last year began allowing female missionaries to wear dress pants in parts of the world with mosquito-borne diseases.

https://www.pressherald.com/2017/06/30/mormons-will-allow-women-to-wear-pants/

I was in middle school in the early 2000s and we were required to wear skirts, in New England weather. I got windburn on my knees, I had to walk to school in a skirt in freezing weather. It’s still an issue, schools deliberately ignore the ruling because “We keep them inside if it’s less than 30 degrees” but that doesn’t stop you from fucking freezing on the way to school, nor the way back.

I was on a softball team in the 2000s, and the school wouldn’t let us wear trousers. We had to wear shorts. We also were not allowed to wear any sort of leg protection UNDER the shorts. So guess what happened when we had to slide into home plate? Some ‘A League of their own’ type bullshit

The male baseball team? All in trousers. They could slide without putting the skin of their legs in danger. We lost one of our best players that season, because her leg was so mangled she could barely walk after a bad slide.

It said I’m one of your recent posts that you were a bloke. I mean, nothing wrong with that,I am too, but I always imagined you as a girl, idk. I might be taking this the wrong way, I’m not that up to British words (I’m sorry, I’m American) Soo, ijdk, I just wanted to ask.

smarklepotter:

headcanonsandmore:

trashfox6:

headcanonsandmore:

gaylittlepieceofsh1t:

headcanonsandmore:

ronandhappiness:

headcanonsandmore:

Yep, I’m a bloke. Don’t worry about that; I get that response a lot on Tumblr. One time, I even got referred to as (bless the person who said this, by the way) “a unicorn” because it was so rare for them to see a male blogger who wasn’t sexist. Which makes me sad, since I was hoping that non-sexists were the majority of male-run blogs on Tumblr and not the exception to the rule.

Granted, I still have problematic behaviour that I’m trying to unlearn, but I hope that I’m getting better.

I actually take it as a compliment when people assume I’m female. It means that I’m doing something right in my attitude towards toxic masculinity and sexism.

‘Bloke’ is British (and Australian as well, I believe) slang for someone who identifies as male. Although I wouldn’t really describe myself as especially ‘blokeish’, since I’m more of a dork than anything else.

Thanks for the message, anon; hope that cleared things up for you.

I shit you not even I was convinced you were a girl but I didn’t say anything because it felt silly to give you kudos for being a decent human being. I thought you’d be offended. It’s pretty funny but sad that people express shock when a decent person turns out to be a boy. Nobody would ever say things like, “oh my god you are so nice I can’t believe you are a girl” to a friendly girl.

@ronandhappiness Don’t worry about it. Yeah, it is ridiculous that the bar is set so low that being a decent person is praised so much. Nah, I’m not offended. Like I said, I take it as a compliment since I shows I’m unlearning problematic behaviour that I had developed through toxic masculinity.

Men have the bar set waaaay too low compared to women. It’s ridiculous that men are praised just for doing the bare minimum of ‘being a decent human being’.

You are a very nice unicorn. I hope other unicorns emerge from your influence!

Awwww, thank you @gaylittlepieceofsh1t and @leiaorganahuttslayer; that’s so sweet of you both!

I actually thought you were a girl too- no offense meant.

Tbh i didn’t even realize that the reason I thought that was because of how non sexist and kind you are to people and to your interpretation of the Harry Potter series, I just automatically associated those qualities with being a girl and sadly, that really does say a lot.

Cheers to you for being an awesome unicorn!

None offence taken! Thank you so much, I really appreciate that!

Y’all making me feel so warm and fuzzy today…

When I think about it, I never actually envisioned you as a really nice boy or a really nice girl, just as a really nice person 😅 it’s kinda how I see all the people here unless they’ve specified their gender.

Awww, thank you @smarklepotter, that’s very sweet of you to say! Yeah, I tend to do that as well with blogs on tumblr. 🙂

It said I’m one of your recent posts that you were a bloke. I mean, nothing wrong with that,I am too, but I always imagined you as a girl, idk. I might be taking this the wrong way, I’m not that up to British words (I’m sorry, I’m American) Soo, ijdk, I just wanted to ask.

trashfox6:

headcanonsandmore:

gaylittlepieceofsh1t:

headcanonsandmore:

ronandhappiness:

headcanonsandmore:

Yep, I’m a bloke. Don’t worry about that; I get that response a lot on Tumblr. One time, I even got referred to as (bless the person who said this, by the way) “a unicorn” because it was so rare for them to see a male blogger who wasn’t sexist. Which makes me sad, since I was hoping that non-sexists were the majority of male-run blogs on Tumblr and not the exception to the rule.

Granted, I still have problematic behaviour that I’m trying to unlearn, but I hope that I’m getting better.

I actually take it as a compliment when people assume I’m female. It means that I’m doing something right in my attitude towards toxic masculinity and sexism.

‘Bloke’ is British (and Australian as well, I believe) slang for someone who identifies as male. Although I wouldn’t really describe myself as especially ‘blokeish’, since I’m more of a dork than anything else.

Thanks for the message, anon; hope that cleared things up for you.

I shit you not even I was convinced you were a girl but I didn’t say anything because it felt silly to give you kudos for being a decent human being. I thought you’d be offended. It’s pretty funny but sad that people express shock when a decent person turns out to be a boy. Nobody would ever say things like, “oh my god you are so nice I can’t believe you are a girl” to a friendly girl.

@ronandhappiness Don’t worry about it. Yeah, it is ridiculous that the bar is set so low that being a decent person is praised so much. Nah, I’m not offended. Like I said, I take it as a compliment since I shows I’m unlearning problematic behaviour that I had developed through toxic masculinity.

Men have the bar set waaaay too low compared to women. It’s ridiculous that men are praised just for doing the bare minimum of ‘being a decent human being’.

You are a very nice unicorn. I hope other unicorns emerge from your influence!

Awwww, thank you @gaylittlepieceofsh1t and @leiaorganahuttslayer; that’s so sweet of you both!

I actually thought you were a girl too- no offense meant.

Tbh i didn’t even realize that the reason I thought that was because of how non sexist and kind you are to people and to your interpretation of the Harry Potter series, I just automatically associated those qualities with being a girl and sadly, that really does say a lot.

Cheers to you for being an awesome unicorn!

None offence taken! Thank you so much, I really appreciate that!

Y’all making me feel so warm and fuzzy today…

hillnerd:

headcanonsandmore:

hillnerd:

headcanonsandmore:

So, is it just me, or is Hermione the most heterosexual out of the golden trio?

Definitely. She’s also practically a misogynist.

@hillnerd Wow. That’s a… interesting viewpoint to have. Care to elaborate? (I’m not trying to be rude; I’m just curious).

Sure!

Hermione displays a lot of internalized misogyny throughout the series.

She does little to support other women in the series, only accepts women when they are authority figures or ‘one of the guys,’ is frequently disdainful towards and about female peers, dislikes peers who are traditionally feminine and is quick to be dismissive of them.

It’s a common trope for women to think they’re ‘not like OTHER women’ and then reject and be unsupportive of other women. Hermione has great trouble relating to other women and reduces them to stereotypes a lot of the time. She’s more prone to be rude/dismissive towards female characters she doesn’t know well and much more tactful with male characters she doesn’t know well in my opinion.

To me this shows that she has a lot f internalized misogyny she’d need to contend with (of course this is really just a symptom of JKR’s writing- as there tends to be a lot of tropes against the ‘silly female’)

You make a lot of good points, @hillnerd. I see what you mean now; Hermione’s behaviour towards other women is definitely problematic at times.

Thoughts, everyone?

hillnerd:

headcanonsandmore:

So, is it just me, or is Hermione the most heterosexual out of the golden trio?

Definitely. She’s also practically a misogynist.

@hillnerd Wow. That’s a… interesting viewpoint to have. Care to elaborate? (I’m not trying to be rude; I’m just curious).