Donald Trump and Republican supporters of SCOTUS nominee Brett Kavanaugh have engaged in victim blaming Kavanaugh’s accuser. They insist that if Kavanaugh really did something wrong, then his accuser would have immediately come forward to report the crime.
#WhyIDidntReport is a hashtag where survivors of rape, sexual assault and molestation are sharing their reasons why they didn’t report their assaults.
This happens far too much, and it is heartbreaking.
Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, chapter five ‘The Dementor’;
“They headed down to
breakfast, where Mr Weasley was reading the front page of The Daily Prophet
with a furrowed brow, and Mrs Weasley
was telling Hermione and Ginny about a Love Potion she’d made as a young girl.
All three of them were rather giggly.”
Urgh. Considering that
Love Potions are now regarded in the HP fandom as the magical equivalent of a
date-r*pe drug, this scene comes across as very
unpleasant. It’s especially weird to see the normally highly moral Hermione
getting all giggly over this.
I mean, I’m sure JK
Rowling didn’t intend for Love Potions to later have so many issues surrounding
them when she wrote this little bit in the third book, but (with hindsight)
this joke seems very misguided. Love Potions were the reason for Voldemort’s
conception, as well as making untold numbers of people (including Ron Weasley)
to act outside their nature, violating issues of consent.
I can imagine Ron
looking back on this at the end of his sixth year, and feeling very
uncomfortable.
As a side note, Hermione
seems perfectly comfortable about Ron seeing her getting giggly over this.
Maybe Hermione’s crush on Ron wasn’t really developed at this point, so it’s
possible that she’s wasn’t bothered about him seeing her giggling over a love
potion story.
For some time now, my headcanon regarding “love potions” is that they are a very broad category. The infatuation-inducing kind are just a narrow subset.
On the more adult side of the spectrum, you have wizard!Viagra and similar products plus the wizard versions of things one might buy to “spice up the old relationship.”
There might also be potions designed to temporarily improve one’s attractiveness or confidence.
My favorite is still Aphrodite’s Destiny (from the fic of the same name). It is supposed to reveal to the drinker the identity of their soulmate.
Hmm. Interesting hypothesis. I think that probably makes more sense; after all, it seems unlikely that the moral Mrs Weasley would be giggling with two young girls about the magical equivalent of a date-rape drug.
Like much of anything else, it’s all in how it’s used. Wizard!Viagra for an older warlock who is indulging his wife? Absolutely.
Let’s say Ecstasy. MDMA is known ‘round as a party drug, for the hallucinogenic effects (and makes Raves and House parties much more fun, so I am told.)
But the same drug is used for PTSD therapy by some doctors. (And if it’s proven effective, I’m all on board that train! It’s still in FDA studies, the sods.) It’s also used by some psychotherapists for helping with severe anxiety and other neurotypical issues. (My cousin used X for about 2 months after her father died. I honestly can’t blame her at all after she witnessed it, and her (then boyfriend, now husband) doing CPR for 30+ minutes on him waiting on the ambulance to get there.)
What about flunitrazepam?
For someone with severe insomnia, it’s a useful medication. Used for nefarious means, it’s a date r*** drug.
So in regards to all of this…. I think that Molly, in the earlier era, was thinking more innocently and it’s only later that the dark side of such a product can crop up (especially in regards to consent issues that are now forefront and mandatory.)
I care about the problems of men. I care that the patriarchy tells men that they have to be stoic beasts incapable of emotion. I care that the patriarchy tells men that they are lust-filled monsters incapable of controlling their own libidos. I care that the patriarchy tells men that they cannot be raped or assaulted because the patriarchy believes women are too weak and inferior to be dangerous.
The swinging pendulum of sexism arrives! Ladies, Men can get raped too. Remember that.
Just to put some perspective in this for those people who may be confused at how a guy can get a boner but not really be sexually charged, so to speak…
Ladies, you know how your nipples get hard for seemingly no reason (sans stepping into a cold room anyway)? You go to put on a shirt and your nipples are poking out like they haven’t seen daylight in over 40 years? Or you brush them up against something and BAMMO, nipple town? Or someone slaps you in the tits and they’re standing full mister?
You get where I’m going with this? Your sexual organs are built to respond to stimulus, be it one you personally find sexually gratifying or not. Saying a dude who gets a boner while he’s otherwise not consenting to sex is lying about the fact would be like saying any girl who gets wet while getting raped is actually enjoying it/wants it.
so… you know… dont be stupid about this people. guys can get raped too and girls can most definitely be the fuckin perps.
People who think men don’t get raped are just as bad as the people who think men can’t control their urges to rape women. It happens less often, but it still happens, and it’s just as traumatizing for the male victim. You can’t just disregard a victim based on their gender.
Can we also include that females can rape other females and males can rape other males too?
Basically, if a person doesn´t give you any verbal consent, IT IS NO CONSENT! ALSO! If they are under influences of legal or illegal drugs/alcohol, IT IS STILL NOT A CONSENT!
like seriously, what´s so hard to understand about that geez
Also a common response to rape is to freeze in fear and allow it to happen. So just because a person didn’t scream or fight back, doesn’t mean they consented to it.
This doesn’t begin and end with rape either. I live and work with men who get sexually assaulted on the regular at their jobs because “they’re men, they must want to get touched” “men always want sexual attention.”
Consent is for everyone and every situation. Period.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
A COMMON RESPONSE TO RAPE IS TO FREEZE IN FEAR AND ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN.
Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, chapter five ‘The Dementor’;
“They headed down to
breakfast, where Mr Weasley was reading the front page of The Daily Prophet
with a furrowed brow, and Mrs Weasley
was telling Hermione and Ginny about a Love Potion she’d made as a young girl.
All three of them were rather giggly.”
Urgh. Considering that
Love Potions are now regarded in the HP fandom as the magical equivalent of a
date-r*pe drug, this scene comes across as very
unpleasant. It’s especially weird to see the normally highly moral Hermione
getting all giggly over this.
I mean, I’m sure JK
Rowling didn’t intend for Love Potions to later have so many issues surrounding
them when she wrote this little bit in the third book, but (with hindsight)
this joke seems very misguided. Love Potions were the reason for Voldemort’s
conception, as well as making untold numbers of people (including Ron Weasley)
to act outside their nature, violating issues of consent.
I can imagine Ron
looking back on this at the end of his sixth year, and feeling very
uncomfortable.
As a side note, Hermione
seems perfectly comfortable about Ron seeing her getting giggly over this.
Maybe Hermione’s crush on Ron wasn’t really developed at this point, so it’s
possible that she’s wasn’t bothered about him seeing her giggling over a love
potion story.
For some time now, my headcanon regarding “love potions” is that they are a very broad category. The infatuation-inducing kind are just a narrow subset.
On the more adult side of the spectrum, you have wizard!Viagra and similar products plus the wizard versions of things one might buy to “spice up the old relationship.”
There might also be potions designed to temporarily improve one’s attractiveness or confidence.
My favorite is still Aphrodite’s Destiny (from the fic of the same name). It is supposed to reveal to the drinker the identity of their soulmate.
Hmm. Interesting hypothesis. I think that probably makes more sense; after all, it seems unlikely that the moral Mrs Weasley would be giggling with two young girls about the magical equivalent of a date-rape drug.
When Abigail Echo-Hawk first started her job as director of the Urban Indian Health Institute, she felt compelled to open the bottom drawer of a file cabinet in the corner of her office.
Among a dozen files inside, she noticed one labeled “Sexual Violence.”
Echo-Hawk had stumbled upon a copy of questions from a 2010 survey, co-produced by the health institute and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), documenting experiences of sexual violence among Native-American women living in Seattle.
The survey findings alone are shocking: 94 percent of the 148 women interviewed, all of whom identified as American Indian or Alaska Native, reported they had been raped or were coerced into sex at least once in their lives. […]
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